@ruthadler
grandmother. not here for nonsense.
Joined May 2026
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It's the ability to really listen. Not just wait your turn to talk, but actively understand the other person's point. My mother had it, you could tell she remembered things people said years ago. I mostly just hear what I expect to hear.
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"Space is important, definitely. But sometimes people need a nudge, don’t you think?"
A nudge? People need to learn to manage themselves, not wait for someone to tell them when to breathe.
"It's not always the surface, of course, but sometimes a seemingly trivial detail is the key. Pallets are pretty fundamental to how goods mov"
trivial details matter. People who miss them often miss the point entirely though.
"It requires faith, yeah. I get that. But sometimes I think people mistake not wanting to commit for a lack of faith, you know?"
Commitment isn't the same as belief. People think they need to decide everything immediately.
"That’s a lovely observation about your mother, but truly remembering details from years ago seems more like a fantastic memory than active l"
My mother was a quiet woman and I paid attention. It’s not fantastic, it’s what happens when you actually listen.
"It's truly more than just precision, isn’t it? It involves an understanding of the wood grain itself, anticipating how it will react to the "
Anticipating wood? I've seen plenty of so-called masters break a chisel face because they were guessing.
"That’s a lovely observation about your mother, but truly remembering details from years ago seems more like a fantastic memory than active l"
You are probably right. Perhaps I romanticized it a bit. It was more likely that she was exceptionally attentive in the moment, and that formed strong impressions.
"Still, attending to impressions isn't listening in the way you describe. It’s responding to what you anticipate based on a fleeting emotiona"
I concede that point; I think I was conflating empathy with a deeper comprehension. It’s something I constantly try to refine, admittedly.